"Good girls are not respected"
MARÍA NANDÉ
I was always a very good girl.
And the good girls, They are not respected.
I was the first of the next generation.
My parents were young and when I got to this world, My family spent a very hard time due to my paternal grandmother's terminal disease, to which I could know only during my first year of life.
"A baby always brings joy!” or at least that said adults around me, that to see a smile On my poor grandmother's face, They separated me from my mother's arms.
And here my story began: I was born to take care of others.
They were two years in which My reign was exclusive. It was the girl spoiled by all, to which they spoiled and filled with gifts. There was no limit, No limits.
Y, What happens when there are no limits? That you do not learn to say no.
I stopped being a baby to become a girl who wanted to discover world. I had a lot of imagination and it was very funny, hence I was always surrounded by other boys and girls who wanted to play the games that invented me.
Soon I liked the like to be leading those "park adventures" without knowing that this just, I was going to live the consequences of my short past: When another boy or girl interrupted my game, I took my toy or hurt me, I didn't know how to express what I felt and let me bare. I didn't even cry.
Sad, TRUE?
There were many other day -to -day situations that led me to suffer bullying
And in all of them, The story that was repeated was the same: prioritize what others wanted above what I needed .
When adolescence arrived, I started feeling invisible and that brought some changes in my behavior:
I was not able to fit in any group of friends Because I didn't know who he was or who wanted and that made me feel different.
I learned To be someone that deep down I knew that It really wasn't To feel part of the group.
Sustained toxic relationships that feedback that invisibility in which I felt warm.
Y así llegué a la adultez.
I noticed that That ignorance of my own identity, increasingly affected more plots in my life. My independence, My work, My family relationships ... I kept looking for where that "defect" was that made me different from the others and not fitting.
Until life got tired of giving me opportunities to take care of me, giving me a very strong shake: My first daughter, Agnes, The day dies before birth, immersing me in deep depression.
He had touched back. All I had left was to hug and take care of myself to be able to go to the surface. And that gave me a lot of fear.
I felt a complete stranger
I discovered a person full of blame, that had little to contribute to life, full of shame and fears.
And the worst was discovering that nothing made me feel happy because I felt nothing.
I started doing therapy. I needed to feel accompanied to take care of this huge tangle, that I had to begin to unravel very little. Until finally, I started connect with who it was to start taking care of me.
I started to take awareness of many sensations And to recognize my emotions behind each of them. I observed what bothered me and how I reacted to it, which, On many occasions, He took me to see my face with a part of me that I didn't like. Over time and my dedication, I began to accept and love the person that I am giving value to what is truly important for me.
Now, con 41 years, I can say that I have learned to take care of me.
Y, Do you know what that learning has taken me?
A Know how to take better care of others, being more respectful with me and from what I can or I want to do.
A Let me take care of, trusting fully in the hands of who accompanies me, since they are as valuable as mine and even more.
Already allow me to make a mistake In order to have the opportunity to learn to repair.
My story with the Cosmetology
Do you know what made cosmetology become one of my greatest passions to the point of dedicating myself to it? Wanting to help other women to connect with their well -being to feel their real beauty.
I come from a family lineage where Beauty was more inconvenient than a benefit. But, Do you know what happens with the forbidden?
That at some point someone reveals and Bite the apple.
My mother was my inspiration.
I needed nothing more than his little bag of basics to want to get fully into this world.
As a child I spent hours mixing their eye shadows with lipsticks and creams with makeup To obtain different finishes.
A few years later, My thirst to learn more about how those cosmetics were created led me to choose to dedicate myself to it professionally. I graduated in chemistry and after dedicating almost twenty years to teaching, I chose to specialize in cosmetology.
I started Creating beauty routines that allow me to help other women to take care of themselves but, What was my surprise?
That women not only need a well -established beauty routine and according to our current needs, but we also need to listen to us, that they empathize with us and that it is mitigated even for a moment of time.
I kept forming to offer my clients the best possible care And once my methodology was purging I decided to start training professionals in the beauty and care sector to offer their clients a comprehensive service that united high specialization in cosmetology and excellent care.
My story with him Coaching
At this point in history, ha debido quedarte muy claro que I love learning to improve my way of helping others.
This is what led me to immerse myself in the world of coaching.
As a good multipotential social networks user, in which I follow different themes profiles, The cookies showed me something that was at that very fashionable moment and said so: Do you want to become a coach?
Among cookies, the hours of therapy I had attended and that the sessions with my clients were increasingly of mental and emotional care, My curiosity made me enter that world to discover that with it I could not only help my clients take care of their exterior, but I could accompany them to live an experience that would allow them to discover how to enjoy their authentic beauty.
There were many courses and conferences that followed this idea until I feel that I was prepared to offer the best of me.
If you are curious about my titulitis ...
- Degree in Chemistry. University of Seville.
- Superior course in dermopharmacy and cosmetic products - Inesem
- Master in Social Coaching for motivation and change processes.(WITH CUM LAUDE DECORATION)
- Masterclass in Dermocosmetic with Barbara Gees.
- Advanced professional and fashion makeup course. Silvia Romero study.
- Professional makeup initiation course. Silvia Romero study
- Food and Nutrition Course. Allergen specialist.
- Personal Shopper and Fashion Course.
- University Master in Integrated Prevention Management Systems Occupational Risks, quality, The environment and corporate social responsibility. BIND
- Internal Auditor of Safety and Health Management Systems at work according to the OHSAS standard18001:2007.
- Internal auditer of quality management systems according to the ISO standard 9001:2008.
- Internal Auditor of Environmental Management Systems according to the ISO standard 14001.
- Digital Marketing Basic Course. Google&|AB Spain.